In-laws

This last weekend, DH's cousin had a housewarming party.  During the party, I was able to talk with my aunt-in-law.  Yay!?  Or not.  I don't hate her or anything, but she is socially blunt.  It's her way or the highway.  And her way, not right that often...

Anyway, she was talking about her daughter's future in-laws and how, because they are wealthier, are uppity.  That's the word she used.  Uppity.  Uppity means self-important and arrogant.  Now, my aunt-in-law and the rest of that side of the family are solidly middle class.  Probably lower to middle middle class.  And to say that because R and A come from completely different financial and social backgrounds doesn't matter is ignorant and is perfectly representative of class differences in the US.  Lower middle class people refuse to acknowledge class.  And A and R will have some different in the future than those who are of the same class structure.  It's not uppity to acknowledge that.

But, here's the thing that really gets me.  P(DH's aunt) doesn't have the right to share that information about A's in-laws, especially not with people other than P's SO.  It doesn't matter what you think about your daughter's in-laws, because you will not interact with them.  So, if your opinion changes your daughter's, then you are poisoning her and her relationships.  This is the problem with in-laws.